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When a reader refuses to read for you (aka don’t make a reader do what they don’t want to do)

This article elaborates on a topic I’ve written about previously: Can’t Read for Everyone – go check it out! 

My husband is notorious for becoming quite the brat if he’s forced to do something that he doesn’t want to do. He digs his heels and won’t budge, or if I get him someplace he doesn’t want to be, doing something he doesn’t want to do, he acts out like a 2 year old. There’s a well-known story about him pulling this stunt on an ex, and narrowly avoiding getting beaten up by strangers by him deliberately saying inflammatory things just to “get out of” the situation… or simply to prove a point: he doesn’t want to be someplace, and this is what you’ll get. [An aside: he was playing Devil’s advocate in a situation where he really shouldn’t of—and he deserved what he got!]

Why am I talking about this? I understand the impulse… especially when I have a client for the umpteenth time asking “Will he/she come back?” I have often said that I am not the best at romance readings, simply because of this one question. “Is he my soulmate?” is another question that rubs me wrong in a similar way, because I personally don’t believe in soulmates. I DO believe in kindred spirits. And don’t get me started on twin flames, either!

But when I get a person coming to me for a reading that I simply don’t gel with (and vice-versa), I don’t understand the impulse to force the issue. When I refuse to read for someone, whether I’ve read for them before or not, it’s for a good reason: I’m not feeling the vibe, and if I’m not feeling the vibe, that person is going to get a pretty crappy reading. I pride myself on giving good readings, or putting myself in the right frame of mind or situation in order to give the best reading possible. And if the best reading possible is not with me, then so be it… I’m not going to take your money if I think a better reader for you is elsewhere, or just not me.

Forcing someone into a corner, making them take on you as a client? Why do people do this? Is this some deep-seated feelings of rejection bubbling up to the surface, working their way out or projected onto your poor tarot reader that has made it clear they’re no longer the right reader for you? And why would you willingly pay money to a person that has said they’re not a right fit for you? That’s just wasting your money and your time (and the reader’s). Why the hassle? Why the drama? Wouldn’t you WANT your reader to tell you they don’t think the readings are working anymore, that we keep circling the same cards and the same answers to the same questions? Wouldn’t you want them to tell you you are wasting your money on readings with you, because it’s the same reading every time?

So here’s the skinny, from both sides of the reading table: what to do when you have someone you can’t read for, and what to do when you’ve been told you’re not getting a reading from a reader.Continue Reading

How to Host Your Own “Be a Psychic” Party

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I walked up to the lobby counter of the country club and asked, “I’m here for the party… where is the room?” They smiled and gestured to the room on the right, where music and laughter was coming from. “Follow the fun sounds?” I asked as I smiled and went.

I walked into the party room in awe. I stopped dead at the open doorway. The dining room table was set, long-ways, with table settings out and almost all the guests already present, except for the birthday girl. It was gorgeous, inviting, and fun, with everyone having a good time already, yet still anticipating the person-of-honor’s arrival.

The hostess thought of everything for this themed party, including hiring me to give readings, of course. The pièce de résistance (besides me, naturally) was the gorgeous party favors: different sets of crystals placed in a compartmentalized tray, with paper cutouts signifying each crystal’s meaning, and transparent colored silk baggies for putting crystals in.

“I would have never thought of that, what a wonderful idea!” I gushed to the hostess. In the corner was a beautifully laid out table, ready for me to place my tarot cards on and begin my readings for that afternoon. I sat myself down, smiled to the guests, and gestured for the first person to come take a seat and get a reading.

I walked out of that private party absolutely glowing with every detail thought out, and memories of the wonderful people I read for.

But you don’t need a professional reader to host a party like that of your very own! (Though, ahem, I DO do party readings… and you can get on my schedule here).Continue Reading

Beltane Blessings, Readers Studio Round-Up, and Tarot and Talismans

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Instead of doing a Readers Studio roundup which I normally would be doing at this time of year, I will have to do a Beltane round-up/rundown instead and talk a little bit about the class I taught over Readers Studio weekend (thought not AT Readers Studio): “Tarot and Talismans.” The Readers Studio roundup of links is at the bottom of the post, so if you’d like to skip and go straight to that particular bit of goodness, go ahead! No offense taken!


It’s been a busy few weeks! A few weekends ago, I attended a beer festival with my husband for the first time. This is something he has been attending every year for the past six years. I have not, because the Readers Studio tarot conference usually falls on the same weekend. So, he runs off and samples beers for a weekend, and I run off to see my tarot peeps, play with new decks, and learn from some of the brightest minds in the tarot world.

It all works out. Usually.

He’s been saying for a couple of years now that I should attend his beer festival one year with him. With this being our first year married, I decided that this year would be the year, and I chose to go with him for the beer festival over Readers Studio… only to find out that they were NOT on the same weekend, for once.

A relatively accurate depiction of how my husband had been describing the beer festival, via GIPHY

By then, my decision had already been made… and I had Beltane weekend free (because I hadn’t realized that Readers Studio fell on Beltane weekend).

This time last year, I had taught Using Tarot for Spell-Work at the Beltane festival, so I approached the organizers and asked if they wanted me to teach again this year. They said yes!

“What should I teach?” I asked.

“Tarot and magick!” they said.

Ummmm… ok. It was time to create a new class, specially for Beltane, that combined two of my loves: tarot and magick. But what to teach?

I thought about it for a few days, mulling over class proposal after class proposal, searching for inspiration anywhere and everywhere. Then, the inspiration came to me as I looked down at my own arm.

… where my High Priestess tarot card tattoo sits, always looking up at me, chastising me frequently and guiding me often.

What was it about the High Priestess card that made her the High Priestess? What were the symbols on her that I absolutely needed to make that card her and mine?

And then it hit me. The pomegranate. The symbols. Often, when I am having trouble interpreting a tarot card with regard to a client’s situation, I soften my gaze and look at the symbols on the card to guide me to the most correct interpretation for their situation.

We can take those symbols, that are already imbued with that tarot card’s energy, and we can turn those symbols into talismans.

This is how “Tarot and Talismans” was born. I excitedly sent off my class proposal to Bernadette of Brid’s Closet, and we were off and running!Continue Reading

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