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When a reader refuses to read for you (aka don’t make a reader do what they don’t want to do)

This article elaborates on a topic I’ve written about previously: Can’t Read for Everyone – go check it out! 

My husband is notorious for becoming quite the brat if he’s forced to do something that he doesn’t want to do. He digs his heels and won’t budge, or if I get him someplace he doesn’t want to be, doing something he doesn’t want to do, he acts out like a 2 year old. There’s a well-known story about him pulling this stunt on an ex, and narrowly avoiding getting beaten up by strangers by him deliberately saying inflammatory things just to “get out of” the situation… or simply to prove a point: he doesn’t want to be someplace, and this is what you’ll get. [An aside: he was playing Devil’s advocate in a situation where he really shouldn’t of—and he deserved what he got!]

Why am I talking about this? I understand the impulse… especially when I have a client for the umpteenth time asking “Will he/she come back?” I have often said that I am not the best at romance readings, simply because of this one question. “Is he my soulmate?” is another question that rubs me wrong in a similar way, because I personally don’t believe in soulmates. I DO believe in kindred spirits. And don’t get me started on twin flames, either!

But when I get a person coming to me for a reading that I simply don’t gel with (and vice-versa), I don’t understand the impulse to force the issue. When I refuse to read for someone, whether I’ve read for them before or not, it’s for a good reason: I’m not feeling the vibe, and if I’m not feeling the vibe, that person is going to get a pretty crappy reading. I pride myself on giving good readings, or putting myself in the right frame of mind or situation in order to give the best reading possible. And if the best reading possible is not with me, then so be it… I’m not going to take your money if I think a better reader for you is elsewhere, or just not me.

Forcing someone into a corner, making them take on you as a client? Why do people do this? Is this some deep-seated feelings of rejection bubbling up to the surface, working their way out or projected onto your poor tarot reader that has made it clear they’re no longer the right reader for you? And why would you willingly pay money to a person that has said they’re not a right fit for you? That’s just wasting your money and your time (and the reader’s). Why the hassle? Why the drama? Wouldn’t you WANT your reader to tell you they don’t think the readings are working anymore, that we keep circling the same cards and the same answers to the same questions? Wouldn’t you want them to tell you you are wasting your money on readings with you, because it’s the same reading every time?

So here’s the skinny, from both sides of the reading table: what to do when you have someone you can’t read for, and what to do when you’ve been told you’re not getting a reading from a reader.Continue Reading

Top Ten Tarot by Hilary Blog Posts—2015 Wrap-Up Edition

The last time I did a top ten, it was at the end of 2012, reminiscing on the blogging year I was leaving behind.

Besides the realization of “gee, I should do that again!” I also learned that doing a top ten list is an excellent way to wrap up the year and go into the new year fresh, clean, and knowing exactly where you came from… so you know where you’re going! It was hard to choose my favorite blog posts, but I was able to do it based on site stats, general popularity, and which ones were my personal favorites to write. Without further ado…

Best of Tarot by Hilary 2015

10. Lessons from Boy Meets World and a Return to Regular Programming

Oh, reruns of Boy Meets World, can there EVER be enough of you? Me stumbling across the episode “Quiz Show” on MTV2 during a bout of procrastination yielded this blog post, all about investing time and energy in worthy pursuits (like my tarot business and my blogging) and less time used up by my addiction to Candy Crush.

 

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Finding honorary tarot readers in books…

Ghost Rider: Travels on the Healing Road by Neil Peart

Ghost Rider: Travels on the Healing Road by Neil Peart

 

I just finished reading Ghost Rider: Travels on the Healing Road by Neil Peart. Peart is best known as the drummer and lyricist for the progressive rock band Rush. Ghost Rider is Peart’s memoir about the time in his life just after he lost first his daughter then his wife within less than a year’s time. He chronicles the road trip he goes on via motorcycle to come to terms with, and sometimes attempt to escape, the reality of losing everything.

I’ve talked about the fact that I have a bit of book ADD before. I have been known to top out at 10–12 books I’m “reading” at one time, but within that I usually fall upon one book that catches my attention over all the others and devote all my time and attention to finishing that book. With that spirit, within about 50 pages I ignored all the other books on my “Currently Reading” shelf and focused solely on Ghost Rider.

It was in that fevered reading frenzy that I reached a portion of the book that made me squeal out with an “eeeeeeeee!!!!” and wake my husband up from his doze.

“NEIL PEART GOT HIS FIRST TAROT READING!!!” I yelled, shaking my husband vigorously. He grumpily looked at me, and rolled away from me, throwing the covers over his head. Did I mention it was at 3am that I reached that point in the book? (No wonder he was grumpy at my literary revelation.)Continue Reading

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