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Reclaiming Rainbow Brite

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If you’re new to Tarot by Hilary, you may not know that I changed my hair drastically in September.

This drastic change is leading me to all kinds of conclusions and revelations, especially surrounding that whole biz of truly trying not to care what other people think of me. Or, at the very least, trying to care more about what I think about me more than others!

The new hair did not escape the notice of my coworkers at my day job. Most people were very enthusiastic about the change… some more enthused about the platinum part of it, some crazy about the rainbow streaks.

But it wasn’t until a coworker at the day job called me a nickname that I had when I was in middle school that I realized the venom that I still held onto within that particular name.

I was called Rainbow Brite in middle school. People are starting to call it me again… and this time? I’m completely okay with it. After all, when you have rainbow hair, what ELSE are they going to call you, right?

In middle school, this was not the most fun nickname to have. I hated it. I cried all the time. I was the least popular girl in the entire school while I was in sixth grade. And while teenagers are prone to exaggeration, this time? It really WAS true. I had a really tough time. My parents were divorcing, and at that point in time I knew of absolutely NO ONE whose parents were divorced. I felt awkward and weird in my own skin and body. Weird was different. Different was bad. To be weird was to not fit in, and to not fit in was to be targeted for being weird instead.Continue Reading

How to Host Your Own “Be a Psychic” Party

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I walked up to the lobby counter of the country club and asked, “I’m here for the party… where is the room?” They smiled and gestured to the room on the right, where music and laughter was coming from. “Follow the fun sounds?” I asked as I smiled and went.

I walked into the party room in awe. I stopped dead at the open doorway. The dining room table was set, long-ways, with table settings out and almost all the guests already present, except for the birthday girl. It was gorgeous, inviting, and fun, with everyone having a good time already, yet still anticipating the person-of-honor’s arrival.

The hostess thought of everything for this themed party, including hiring me to give readings, of course. The pièce de résistance (besides me, naturally) was the gorgeous party favors: different sets of crystals placed in a compartmentalized tray, with paper cutouts signifying each crystal’s meaning, and transparent colored silk baggies for putting crystals in.

“I would have never thought of that, what a wonderful idea!” I gushed to the hostess. In the corner was a beautifully laid out table, ready for me to place my tarot cards on and begin my readings for that afternoon. I sat myself down, smiled to the guests, and gestured for the first person to come take a seat and get a reading.

I walked out of that private party absolutely glowing with every detail thought out, and memories of the wonderful people I read for.

But you don’t need a professional reader to host a party like that of your very own! (Though, ahem, I DO do party readings… and you can get on my schedule here).Continue Reading

How to Recover from Giving a “Bad” Reading

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“Don’t bother, she’s not worth it.”

Those words continued to ring in my ears, long after the reading was over. A snide comment, made to the client’s friend, as they sailed out the door. Whether or not she meant for me to hear it, I’ll never know. But I sure did.

It’s not like I was inaccurate, it was more like the client wasn’t enthralled, and I had to remind myself that not every reading is going to be a slam dunk.

It’s something that we have to, as readers, remind ourselves often… Especially when starting out. Readings may be stilted, awkward, sometimes going very fast like a ticker tape, or slow and having to be drawn out, paused, or outright stopped based on how the cards come out or the information is flowing. This is to be expected.

If you are lucky, after a few years of this work, the majority of your clients will be regulars or “your type” of clients, accustomed to your style or way of working, and the ho-hum readings will become more fewer or further between. You will attract more of the better fit clients, and less of the awkward. Less… But not none.Continue Reading

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