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Day 7: Take done over “perfect”, any day of the week

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Day 7 Challenge: For today’s challenge I want you to pick one imperfect action that you can take every day that will move you closer to the life you have envisioned. It could be 5 minutes of walking or meditation, or even just continuing the momentum of this challenge and keep writing 200 words a day on your blog. Pick that one imperfect action and write a post about why you chose the particular action and what you imagine it will be like if you do it every day for the next 30 days.


Like Natalie said in the video, Imperfect action is better than no action at all. It is something that I have been learning to embrace lately, especially with regards to writing and blogging. This blog challenge of writing and publishing that writing publicly daily has been uncomfortable because I do have a tendency to want to make it perfect before hitting the publish button. But again, imperfect is better than undone, right? So I hit publish, knowing that I can always polish this series of blog posts up later. That’s the beauty of the blogging medium: you can always go back and edit or tidy up or add ideas… But if you keep something in draft format, then no one gets the benefit of seeing it, and possibly they need to hear or read those words that you are too scared to type RIGHT NOW. Don’t let your fear of imperfection get in the way of helping someone else with your words.

My imperfect action is to finish this blog challenge strong, and continue to write daily (privately), and drop the blog posts down (or up, considering I haven’t been blogging consistently lately) to once a week, whether or not I feel like I have something to say. A weekly blog will still appear.

The other day, I had to have this conversation with myself regarding my newsletter. I was fighting internally whether or not to send it, and then I hit the send button before I could change my mind or talk myself out of it… Why? Because I wanted it to be perfect. I felt the more time I had with it, the better I could make it, but it would be at the risk of not sending it at all. And I made a promise to myself that I would send out my newsletters twice a month: once in a monthly forecast start-of-the-month style, and once in a letter/story format, on the first and the fifteenth, respectively. It was the fifteenth yesterday. And because of that, it went… And it was imperfectly authentically me. I will take authenticity over perfection any day of the week. And that’s what I need to remember the next time I try to convince myself into procrastination!

Blessings,
~*~Hilary~*~
www.tarotbyhilary.com

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 7.

I’m doing the 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge from Natalie Sisson! Want to join me? It’s going on until September 19th, so hop right in, the water’s fine!

Day 5: The Success Plan (hint: it starts with nipping procrastination in the bud)

Distraction-free is the way to success!

Distraction-free is the way to success!

 

Day 5 Challenge: Create a daily success plan for yourself that takes only 15–20 minutes and schedule a time in the day where you can squeeze it in. Write a blog post about what you will do, when you will do it, and how it will get you closer to your dreams.


First of all, I’d just like to say how very important ommwriter is to the process of turning off the distractions and focusing in on what I really need to do (and what I really need to write), as well as 750words.com.

As I listened to today’s video, I laughed as Natalie said “do not work from your living room!” Where was I sitting, of course, when I was listening and getting ready to write? And where am I sitting now, jotting down some thoughts before the real writing begins? Of course, my living room! Though as soon as she said it, I started walking around with my iPad and clearing off the kitchen table and getting my writing space ready to really get to work after the video was over.

The venue may change, but the habits do not, and that is how consistency is built. It finally clicked in my mind that THIS is how people keep up with what is important to them. I always marveled at the people who would work out in the fitness rooms at hotels while I was on vacation… Because vacation, to me, was always about taking a break from the daily life, especially those routines that hold daily life together. But I guess now I know that small daily goals produce consistent habits that you don’t mind doing daily, even when on vacation… In fact, you come to enjoy cultivation of those habits! And speaking of those daily habits… this is my 23rd day of writing every day!

In my daily planner from the desire map, there is room each day for three top priorities, the things that must get done each day, followed by lesser priorities. Now I understand why there isn’t more than three as top priorities…. Otherwise, it causes complete overwhelm, and if you can’t get all X number of priorities done in one day, even if there are a ridiculous amount, like ten, then why complete any at all, right? Manageable goals brings manageable success. If you don’t set yourself up for success, then you probably won’t be successful.

Finally, the pomodoro technique: wow, what a breakthrough I had when I first learned about it from Racheal Cook during her Fired Up and Focused Challenge. The pomodoro technique teaches us the lesson of anything you want to do magically expands depending on the amount of time you are given to complete said task. For example, I’ve known all evening that I’ve needed to do two things: watch today’s video and write the blog post you are reading now (thing 1) and write my newsletter to be blasted out tomorrow morning (thing 2). Yet I knew I had all evening to do these things. So did I go for it right away? No, of course I didn’t. I sat and watched tv and ate a sandwich then an ice cream cone and watched more tv and played bejeweled stars and candy crush soda saga while watching yet more tv and a movie that I’ve already seen before. I looked at the clock and realized that the evening had slipped away, and now I had less time to do the work that I could have had done already!

So, enough behind the scenes blather about why and how I stall. Here’s the good stuff, the real point of today’s challenge: creating a success plan that works for me, daily.

7am-8am: morning spirit/writing stuff, broken down into 20 minute increments: 10–20 minutes of meditation, 10–20 minutes of writing, 10–20 minutes on offerings/magickal work/divination. In that order. Where? Meditation and writing at kitchen table/office, offerings/magickal work/divination at altar.

Evenings: One hour of steady work, broken down into 2 pomodoro sessions, of whatever writing I need to do that week. Where? Either the bedroom with the door shut until the session is done, or my kitchen office. With an announcement to my husband that I am doing work for the next hour.

And any time I’m writing, I’m doing it in one of the following two places: ommwriter or 750words.com, with headphones in, and absolutely no social media or online distractions interrupting. If I need to do research, I can leave a placeholder and do it later, but not while writing. No need to tempt myself into falling down the rabbit hole.

The success plan itself is knowing what I need to do the day before, so that I’m not floundering and stalling the day of with the question of “what should I be focusing on?” The key is to have a “must do today” list and the last thing I do before finishing my work for the day is writing out a “must do tomorrow” list. That way, no floundering or stalling… Just straight to work, because my list is right there to work from and tick off!

Bottom line: the truth is I can write from anywhere, and I can read and teach tarot anywhere in the world for/to anyone. But in order to do the big things, I need to start with where I am and with what I have. And if I can’t manage my time now while living in one place, how in the world do I expect to travel the world with my tarot cards in tow and manage my time then? Like I said before… The venue may change, but the habits do not!

Blessings,
~*~Hilary~*~
www.tarotbyhilary.com

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 5.

I’m doing the 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge from Natalie Sisson! Want to join me? It’s going on until September 19th, so hop right in, the water’s fine!

How to Read Tarot Outside

How to Read Tarot Outside


I’ve read tarot outside in a cemetery. I’ve read tarot outside on a busy street corner during third Friday or for street fairs. I’ve read tarot outside of a public library when they realized we were using their “conference room” as a free meeting place for doing tarot sessions. I’ve read tarot in a public park, sitting on a park bench.

Each time I’ve had to contend with the blowing wind and with denizens of nature such as mosquitoes and ants. It was not an uncommon thing for me to be deep into a reading with someone and then yell “Oh SHIT!” as the wind picked up and the cards went a’flying.

But things like that shouldn’t stop you from taking your tarot cards outside! Here’s how to do it without damaging or losing a single precious card.Continue Reading

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