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How much is a freebie worth to you?

The Joker may be crazy, maniacal even, but he’s not wrong: If you’re good at something, never do it for free.

So why is the metaphysical industry absolutely plagued with deal-seekers, craving fix after fix, card after card, and all for FREE?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and I think the answer comes down to VALUE. 

Perceived value.

Miscommunicated value.

The cold truth is that if they didn’t put some skin in the game in the form of cash, that person is probably not going to find a lot of value from your services. No matter which services you provide.

Nuggets of truth may be taken with a heaping dose of salt because hey, that piece of truth was bought with nothing, with thin air. It was bought with less than peanuts. 

And damn good readers (tarot, psychic, or otherwise) are killing themselves bending over backwards providing freebies for people that will never EVER pay for a reading. And then they’re wondering why people won’t pay.

Because you’re giving away the farm, m’dear, and you know what they say about the cow giving away that milk…

I’ve paid my dues, and given away too many readings to even count, especially when I was just starting out: this is an excellent way to grow your tarot chops, and I’m not knocking it in the slightest.

…But it’s no way to run a business once you are out of the practice zone.

Blessings,
~*~Hilary~*~
www.tarotbyhilary.com
hilary@tarotbyhilary.com

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HILARY PARRY HAGGERTY is a tarot reader, witch, mentor, editor, and teacher. She has been reading tarot for over 21 years (13 years professionally). She was the winner of Theresa Reed’s (The Tarot Lady) Tarot Apprentice contest in 2011, and has taught classes on tarot and spell-work at The Tarot School’s annual tarot conference Readers Studio and at Brid’s Closet Beltane Festival. She writes a weekly blog on tarot at her website www.tarotbyhilary.com and has been featured in Maxim Magazine and BuzzFeed.

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Weekly Round-Up: It’s a New Year!

Holy moly moo, it has been the longest short work week ever, am I right? Here’s a round-up of links and things I’m digging on, with a new year’s slant to it!

Gala Darling just released a new yearly tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) program called Magnetismo (that’s Italian for the word “magnetism”). When I saw the announcement, I zipped over to the site, and lo and behold, here I was extolling the virtues of this new program in a testimonial! No worries though: I’ve used Gala’s tapping routines before in her other program Illuminated that I did back in July, along with her original program on “power tapping” Tap That. I’ve severely cut down on my sugar intake, and have switched from drinking soda to seltzer or water. I’m also enrolled in her Radical Radiance book, which includes plenty of tapping routines in it… so while I won’t be picking up Magnetismo, the endorsement I provide about the power of learning tapping with Gala is absolutely 100% approved! (I’ve included it below.)

I’ve only been using the Orisha Tarot for the past 4 days, and man oh man, it has been kicking my butt in all the right ways. I’ll be reviewing it here at the end of the month, but if you just can’t wait to pick up a copy, you can see for yourself.

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🔮🃏Card of the Day for 1/3/19: 6 of Swords [The Orisha Tarot]: In the most simple terms, this card is depicting a simple tool that can bring deep insight. Don’t be fooled by something that seems to be simple, and don’t poo-poo or belittle something for its simplicity… in fact, today is a day where you should pare things down to their very essence to find the answers you seek. But don’t ask if you don’t want to know.⠀ ⠀ 🙌🏻 💞 Like the card of the day? Please share it with your friends! ⠀ 🔮Want a personalized reading of your own? http://tarotbyhilary.com⠀ ⠀ 🃏 #tarot deck: The Orisha Tarot by Andrew McGregor⠀ ⠀ tarot #cardoftheday #TheOrishaTarot #tarotbyhilary #taroteverydamnday #witch #witches #psychic #intuition #fortunetelling #divination #cartomancy #6ofSwords #tarotreadersofinstagram #witchesofinstagram #psychicsofinstagram

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I just want ALL THESE PINS from the Mystic Mondays website. Especially the Empath Club one.

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When a reader refuses to read for you (aka don’t make a reader do what they don’t want to do)

This article elaborates on a topic I’ve written about previously: Can’t Read for Everyone – go check it out! 

My husband is notorious for becoming quite the brat if he’s forced to do something that he doesn’t want to do. He digs his heels and won’t budge, or if I get him someplace he doesn’t want to be, doing something he doesn’t want to do, he acts out like a 2 year old. There’s a well-known story about him pulling this stunt on an ex, and narrowly avoiding getting beaten up by strangers by him deliberately saying inflammatory things just to “get out of” the situation… or simply to prove a point: he doesn’t want to be someplace, and this is what you’ll get. [An aside: he was playing Devil’s advocate in a situation where he really shouldn’t of—and he deserved what he got!]

Why am I talking about this? I understand the impulse… especially when I have a client for the umpteenth time asking “Will he/she come back?” I have often said that I am not the best at romance readings, simply because of this one question. “Is he my soulmate?” is another question that rubs me wrong in a similar way, because I personally don’t believe in soulmates. I DO believe in kindred spirits. And don’t get me started on twin flames, either!

But when I get a person coming to me for a reading that I simply don’t gel with (and vice-versa), I don’t understand the impulse to force the issue. When I refuse to read for someone, whether I’ve read for them before or not, it’s for a good reason: I’m not feeling the vibe, and if I’m not feeling the vibe, that person is going to get a pretty crappy reading. I pride myself on giving good readings, or putting myself in the right frame of mind or situation in order to give the best reading possible. And if the best reading possible is not with me, then so be it… I’m not going to take your money if I think a better reader for you is elsewhere, or just not me.

Forcing someone into a corner, making them take on you as a client? Why do people do this? Is this some deep-seated feelings of rejection bubbling up to the surface, working their way out or projected onto your poor tarot reader that has made it clear they’re no longer the right reader for you? And why would you willingly pay money to a person that has said they’re not a right fit for you? That’s just wasting your money and your time (and the reader’s). Why the hassle? Why the drama? Wouldn’t you WANT your reader to tell you they don’t think the readings are working anymore, that we keep circling the same cards and the same answers to the same questions? Wouldn’t you want them to tell you you are wasting your money on readings with you, because it’s the same reading every time?

So here’s the skinny, from both sides of the reading table: what to do when you have someone you can’t read for, and what to do when you’ve been told you’re not getting a reading from a reader.Continue Reading


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