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When a reader refuses to read for you (aka don’t make a reader do what they don’t want to do)

This article elaborates on a topic I’ve written about previously: Can’t Read for Everyone – go check it out! 

My husband is notorious for becoming quite the brat if he’s forced to do something that he doesn’t want to do. He digs his heels and won’t budge, or if I get him someplace he doesn’t want to be, doing something he doesn’t want to do, he acts out like a 2 year old. There’s a well-known story about him pulling this stunt on an ex, and narrowly avoiding getting beaten up by strangers by him deliberately saying inflammatory things just to “get out of” the situation… or simply to prove a point: he doesn’t want to be someplace, and this is what you’ll get. [An aside: he was playing Devil’s advocate in a situation where he really shouldn’t of—and he deserved what he got!]

Why am I talking about this? I understand the impulse… especially when I have a client for the umpteenth time asking “Will he/she come back?” I have often said that I am not the best at romance readings, simply because of this one question. “Is he my soulmate?” is another question that rubs me wrong in a similar way, because I personally don’t believe in soulmates. I DO believe in kindred spirits. And don’t get me started on twin flames, either!

But when I get a person coming to me for a reading that I simply don’t gel with (and vice-versa), I don’t understand the impulse to force the issue. When I refuse to read for someone, whether I’ve read for them before or not, it’s for a good reason: I’m not feeling the vibe, and if I’m not feeling the vibe, that person is going to get a pretty crappy reading. I pride myself on giving good readings, or putting myself in the right frame of mind or situation in order to give the best reading possible. And if the best reading possible is not with me, then so be it… I’m not going to take your money if I think a better reader for you is elsewhere, or just not me.

Forcing someone into a corner, making them take on you as a client? Why do people do this? Is this some deep-seated feelings of rejection bubbling up to the surface, working their way out or projected onto your poor tarot reader that has made it clear they’re no longer the right reader for you? And why would you willingly pay money to a person that has said they’re not a right fit for you? That’s just wasting your money and your time (and the reader’s). Why the hassle? Why the drama? Wouldn’t you WANT your reader to tell you they don’t think the readings are working anymore, that we keep circling the same cards and the same answers to the same questions? Wouldn’t you want them to tell you you are wasting your money on readings with you, because it’s the same reading every time?

So here’s the skinny, from both sides of the reading table: what to do when you have someone you can’t read for, and what to do when you’ve been told you’re not getting a reading from a reader.Continue Reading

Health and the Tarot

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I had to refund a person this weekend. Hey, it happens. I want to be able to provide readings for everyone, but in this particular case, the question would have been better asked of a medical professional than me. So I refunded the money and urged the prospective client to seek a medical professional’s opinion.

This all ties into me watching Maya Angelou on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday this weekend and a little quote she said. Continue Reading

How Frequently Should You Get a Tarot Reading?

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Sometimes I have clients that just can’t wait to have another tarot reading. While I love enthusiastic clients, I do have to get them to take a deep breath, calm down, and remind them that there’s work that needs to be done first.

I once had a friend of mine ask for a love reading. Less than the span of a week had passed between the first time she asked the question and when she asked again. I went ahead and did the reading… lo and behold, the same cards came up in the EXACT same positions. This was definitely not a coincidence (is there really coincidence when throwing tarot cards?) and I had never seen that happen before (or since). I’m not sure who learned their lesson that day more… me or her. Pretty sure it was me.Continue Reading

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